Can we profit from broken hearts and relationships?
You might be wondering what kind of question this is: Can anyone feel good about a breakup? And you can’t even think about its benefits.
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According to The Breakup Monologues author Rosie Wilby, there are a lot of advantages to ending a relationship.
Previously, Rosie Wilby presented a podcast of the same name. Later, he also wrote a book with the same name. In this book, he talks about his personal life. In addition, whatever he understood about human relationships while talking to the guests on the podcast, he put it in his book.
He also spoke to many physicians, sociologists, and scientists to write this book. He spoke to BBC Rail about his book.
We can learn a lot from heartbreak, says Rosie Wilby on BBC Reels. Sharing her experience with the BBC, she says that a breakup is never considered good, but it can also be good for you.
Opportunity for self-understanding:
According to Rosie Wilby, breakups give us an opportunity to rethink and rethink what kind of person we want to be in our relationship or what kind of man we want to be in a relationship with, and sometimes through the painful experience of heartbreak. We get better information about ourselves and are able to make better decisions.
Mental health and behavioral sciences expert Dr. Sameer Malhotra also believes that sometimes breaking up is an eye-opener.
Dr. Malhotra says that “breakups can sometimes make you aware of your flaws.” Next, you rectify yourself. Then you correct yourself. It’s up to you how you view a breakup. If you keep finding faults in others, you will never try to improve yourself.’
Everyone’s experience is different:
Delhi-based psychologist Shivani Mishrisadhu says that breakups are difficult for everyone, and everyone’s experience of getting over them is different.
Talking to the BBC’s Fatima Faraheen, Shivani Mishri Sadhu says that sometimes the breakup of relationships is a lesson for us.
“When you break up, you get a chance to learn about yourself and improve yourself,” according to her. We should also accept what we did wrong in this relationship.
Heartbreak compared to drug addiction:
Rosie Wilby compares heartbreak to drug addiction. He claims that the way someone behaves following a breakup is comparable to how a drug addict ceases using drugs.
According to Dr. Sameer Malhotra, an individual’s attraction to another person increases in tandem with an increase in the brain’s oxytocin hormone, popularly known as the “love chemical.” This is seen in all types of love.
“Many times the dopamine reward pathway is activated in the brain,” according to him. As a result, your need to see this person grows stronger every time; yet, if he doesn’t show up and the connection ends, we find ourselves in a similar predicament to that of a drug addict who is unable to obtain drugs.
According to Dr. Sameer Malhotra, the dopamine reward pathway is also activated in drug addiction.
Should a new relationship be established immediately?
Relationships take a lot of work to maintain, says Rosie Wilby. This endeavor is challenging because partnerships produce a lot of upheaval in one’s life. You have to see the other person and their good and bad.
“After a breakup, it’s important to take time out and think about yourself before getting back into another relationship,” says Rosie Wilby on BBC Reels.
But that certainly doesn’t mean you become a monk or a nun and stay away from sex altogether. Relationships with yourself are important. Dr. Additionally, Sameer Malhotra elaborates on Rosie Wilby’s statement. He says that many times people think that if one relationship breaks, another should be formed very soon. it’s wrong. Our most important relationship is with ourselves. It should have some rules, some balance, and some discipline.
Dr. Malhotra says you should direct your focus toward hobbies or creative endeavors.
He says that one should try to improve the relationship with oneself and try to remove one’s faults by understanding them.
Dr. Malhotra says that we should neither stalk (pursue) someone nor cling to a new person out of desperation because we need someone else to show the relationship.
“Whenever we talk about relationships, two things are very important: a healthy attachment and a healthy distance,” he says. To put it simply, maintaining relationships is very important. Be connected to each other, but at the same time, there should be some distance between them because everyone wants to have some personal space. Changing people’s minds: Shivani Mishri Sadhu believes that in South Asia too, people’s views on break-ups have started to change.
According to experts, although more people are beginning to realize that being in a toxic relationship negatively impacts one’s physical, mental, and emotional well-being, the circumstances around this are still such that leaving the relationship can be very challenging.
Talking about the situation after a breakup, Pooja Shivam Jaitley says that you can meet different people, start healthy habits, learn to live your life anew, and most importantly, you can start realizing your importance.